10 Ways to Be There for Yourself After a Breast Cancer Diagnosis

With this month being dedicated to Breast Cancer Awareness, it is normal to find an article dedicated to this disease. So if you came across this article, it is because your world is off-kilter after a breast cancer diagnosis, just know that what you’re feeling is completely valid. The entire experience of having breast cancer is more difficult than anyone deserves, after speaking with people who have been in this position, we realized that the time right after diagnosis can be particularly vulnerable and challenging. It’s understandable if you’re thrown for such a loop that you’re not sure how to begin moving forward. Here are some ways to be there for yourself during this experience.

1. Identify what triggers your negative thoughts

Analysing the possible source of distress can help bring about greater self-awareness and positive change. For example, it may help you to recognise the vicious cycle of negative thoughts and remove yourself from it early. Once you realise what triggers the negative thought, you can then stop it from escalating which can subsequently impact your behaviour. Also, refrain from catastrophising or making negative predictions prematurely.

2. Count your blessings

Keeping a gratitude journal, or a form of a diary that helps you remember the positive things in your lives, may help you find solace. At the end of each day, think about things in your day that you can be grateful for. These things do not need to be grand gestures or big events. They can be small blessings such as lovely weather, a good conversation with a friend or simply being able to enjoy a nice dessert. This gratitude exercise allows you to expand your mind and change your negative perspectives into more positive ones.

3. Repeat a comforting phrase/prayer/song/poem

During difficult times, try to replace negative thoughts with something that lifts your spirits. This can be in the form of an empowering statement, mantra or prayer. Repeat this to yourself, consciously breathing in each word and exhaling your anxieties.

4. Read or watch inspirational stories of cancer survivors

When you are feeling down, it may be useful to know that you are not alone. Many others have walked this difficult path before you and emerged more resilient and positive. Allow these stories to spur you on during your most challenging moments; remind yourself continually that you can not only survive, but also thrive.

5. Stay in the present

Staying in the present moment – the ‘here-and-now’ – is a skill you can practise with breathing and meditation. By being aware and mindful of your thoughts, feelings and experiences in the present moment, you will find yourself growing in resilience and becoming less reactive and agitated.

6. Schedule a ‘worry break’

While it is not good to spend all day caught up in your worries and anxieties, it is not possible to block out all of such thoughts. As such, give yourself a ‘worry break’ every day where you can indulge yourself in your worries for about 20 to 30 minutes. During the day, when you find such worries creeping in, remind yourself to “postpone” it to that timeslot. This becomes your allocated space to explore your biggest insecurities while containing it to a specific time-frame.

7. Reach out to someone you know who is suffering

Some cancer patients have found comfort and strength in sharing their stories and sufferings with fellow patients to encourage them. Sometimes, in acknowledging the pain and anxieties of another, you grow in gentleness towards yourself and in compassion towards others. However, you may wish to consider reaching out to others when you feel emotionally ready to do so.

8. Seek professional help

There is nothing to be ashamed of if you ask for help when you need it. If you feel overwhelmed such that it affects your work, school or home routines, or even your relationships negatively, do consider seeking help from a counsellor.

9.Never Give Up

Finding love and acceptance for your new body will take time. It is OK to not be OK. Never give up on the process. There will be highs and lows but you are worth it. You are worthy of love and acceptance. Know that whatever you are feeling right now is temporary. With time, your physical wounds will heal and you out dedicate the time and energy to healing yourself from within. You are worth the effort.

10. Focus on what brings you the most meaning and joy

Ask yourself: What could I do today to make this a better day? What gives me the most meaning, happiness, and pleasure? This might mean taking a vacation now rather than putting it off, continuing to work if you’re able to, or spending more time with the people you love. Of course, you’ll have days when you’re struggling and you feel discouraged. You may need to pay more attention to how you spend your time and energy than you did in the past, and to prioritize the things that matter most.

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